Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Trek

17 posts in 3 days!  I'm sure I've broken some sort of record!  Or at least I deserve some sort of prize. And now for my last one....TREK!

If I'm being honest, my excitement about going on trek wore off as the summer wore on.  The timing just seemed to be horrible with everything that was going on for us.  Mostly with our rental, and John had a huge trial starting the Monday after we would be getting back.  For a while it seemed like trek was just adding stress.  We had a lot of gear to round up, ended up spending a lot of money to get ready, and spent a lot of time planning devotionals etc.  I felt like I was kind of done before it started. And then all that changed....

Monday the 6th we had our trek kids over to practice setting up the tents.  After setting up the tents and playing an intense game of spoons we realized that we were going to have a lot of fun.  Tuesday  night we met the kids back at the church for the equipment check in.  And then Wednesday morning John and I were at the church at 3:45.  I can honestly say I slept for about 1 hour the night before. I was exhausted.  At 5:00 that morning we were loaded onto a charter but and on our way to Wyoming.  We had a 6 hour ride ahead of us and we were spending it with 9 kids we were still trying to get to know.  The bus ride started out quiet and I slept for another 30 minutes or so, and then the kids started waking up.  We chatted, played would you rather, played sticks, and slowly started getting to know this new temporary family of ours. (For my record...our kids were Megan Briscoe, Amantha Morgan , Mckenna Venche, Alexa, Isaac Demars, Tiloi Nawahine, Cody Cheney, Zach Kinzel, and Taggart Cluff)

By noon we were at our destination (the DLL, a cattle ranch on the Utah Wyoming border) we had loaded up our carts and we were on our way.  The walking had begun.  And that's what we did.  We walked and walked and walked.

It was a long and wonderful day.  We laughed, sang our peanut butter cup chant, and talked.  I was learning that our kids were amazing.  Slowly they started calling me Ma and John Papa John :)  It didn't take long for our family to form.
Towards the end of our first day the rain hit.  And it poured. John and I pulled on a poncho after getting slightly soaked, but our kids wanted to keep going.  They refused to let us push and before long they were soaked.  Completely soaked. But what was most amazing to me was that not one person complained or griped about the situation at all.  We walked 11 miles that day, the last few miles soaking wet, had been up since 3:00 in the morning, and there was no complaining! It was at this point that I knew we had incredible kids. They even wanted to go faster.  We trekked a lot near a family who had named themselves the Ligers.  They became our rivals and they didn't even realize it.  They were soooo slow!  We even passed them once on the trail. John and I allowed it and then pretended to be mad when our kids darted around them.  Our entire trek was full of Liger Jokes.
  
Miraculously the rain cleared that night long enough for us to set up our tents and make dinner.  I gave a devotional that night about being a finisher.  I used president Monson's finisher talk.  Before we left for trek my plan had been to talk to them about working hard and finishing what they start, but that day they proved that they already were finishers. 

That night everyone went to bed slightly wet.  And then then during the night we got hit with an intense storm. The rain came down vertically, the wind was strong, and there was tons of lightening. Someone later told me that they timed it and the storm lasted 2 hours.

When we woke up that next morning we learned that our girls' tent had a zipper malfunction and the rain had been pouring in on them all night.  Most of the kids had wet sleeping bags and their clothes were still soaking that next morning.  John and I had stayed dry for the most part.  Our shoes were still soaked and my skirt and apron were wet from the knee down but other than that I was fine.  Others didn't fare so well.  After our kids wandered about camp they came back and reported that even thought we were all wet, a lot of others were way worse off than we were.  They were grateful. So that morning we got everything as dry as we could and then ultimately packed up our wet camp and headed out.

Our second morning there we had our women's pull.  This is where the men all leave and the women pull the handcart for a while by themselves.  Before trek I thought this would be lame.  But my girls were tough.  And for them it was empowering.  I loved seeing them empowered! They wanted to do hard things.  A few of them were even annoyed when the boys eventually jumped on and started helping because they wanted to do it by themselves.  I loved the experience just because it was a reminder to me of what women can accomplish when we work together.
 We had a good day walking our second day.  Although dark clouds were lurking and the winds were picking up.  By the time we got to camp the wind was insane!  We were trying to set up our tents and the wind was making it very difficult.  After trying to fix our girls tent with no luck we went to the supply trailer.  As luck would have it they had 2 tents.  One that was too small and one that was too big.  We took the one that was too big.  Trying to set up a monstrous 10 man tent in high winds was almost comical. It took over 10 people!  The tents eventually got set up (although they were trying to blow away) and since we now had the party tent John and I took our kids into the huge tent to play a game of spoons and eat jolly ranchers.  That afternoon I laughed so hard I cried.  Our family just laughed and laughed and laughed.  I loved every minute of it.

Eventually the winds died down a bit and we were able to play some pioneer games with the stake. Our family was the best of course.  We had a blast. And then we had our favorite dinner of trek (pulled pork sandwiches, salad, and brownies, yum.  The stake provided food but we had to cook everything ourselves.  So we were never completely sure how our meals were going to turn out!)
 And while we were eating I laughed so hard that I shot water out of my nose.  But Taggart ^ had a similar issue.  Our family seriously laughed a lot.

That night we had a group devotional on a hill and I was able to look around and notice the gorgeous scenery.  We could see the entire valley.  Wyoming is beautiful.
Our second night we dealt with horrible wind again.  I literally woke up to my tent hitting me in the face.  But we all survived. And while I'm sure we were all pretty tired by this point we got up and loaded up camp again for more trekking.  Our walk this day was short...only about 5 miles.  We set up camp this time in a cow pasture.  And there was everything you would imagine would be in a cow pasture. Mostly lots of cow poop!   Nice!  It just made the experience more real I suppose.  While we dealt with a little rain and wind that afternoon again, I was able to take a little nap before our dancing that night.  Dancing, dinner, and then a stake devotional.

This was also the night I had a little heart to heart with my 2 oldest boys, Zach and Cody.  Of all my kids they were the hardest for me.  Mostly because they were so concerned with being with friends and girls.  And they were at the age where they thought they were in charge.  I literally laughed one time when they told me their plan for pulling the carts that day....they had no idea they were not in charge at all.  I told them that I was worried their priorities were in the wrong place.  They were missing out on getting to know the awesome kids in our family because they could only think of their friends.  They were work horses while pulling the cart but would dart off every chance they got to be with their friends.  I think it was a reflection of their priorities in life too.  They both do what has to be done and show up to church etc, but neither is sure of their testimonies or serving a mission.  We chatted for a while about this and our last night and day went better. Whether or not they make long term changes...only time will tell.

On our last night before we went to bed I had our kids each share their favorite and least favorite part of trek.  Their worst parts were pretty minor, I don't even remember what they said, but I do remember the laughter and tears that ensued as they shared their favorites. The most shocking to me was that even John was effected.  John was quite the cynic where trek was concerned.  But on our last night there even he had tears in his eyes.  I feel I can safely say that John is now a fan of trek. We had both been touched by the spirit and personality of these kids.  And I know that my eyes were opened as I got a small taste of the pioneer spirit.

We woke up Saturday morning and realized we had had a calm night!  No wind and no rain!  It was amazing!  By this point we were all dried out and ready to trek our last 6 miles before getting on the buses and heading home.







 If you look at the tiny spot on the top of the hill ^ you will see my little free spirit Taggart.  He would spend his time running off in the hills whenever there was a chance.  Doing his Little House on the Prairie run.  We all loved Taggart.
After a gorgeous day of walking on Saturday we unloaded our carts, packed the buses, and got ready for our 6 hour ride home.  The ride home was different.  This time we were comfortable and we were family.  We knew each others personalities so well.  We knew what each of our kids were dealing with at home. Stepmoms they didn't like, inactive parents, shyness, etc.  These kids have some really tough trials, and they are handling them beautifully.  We spent the entire 7 hours (there was  breakdown along the way) talking and laughing together.  

On Sunday I could hardly think about trek without crying.  I'm sad that I won't get to see these kids often anymore.  We do have an awesome reunion planned in a few weeks, but I'll miss them dearly.  In a weird way, I now consider them my kids.

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Warm Lake


 Right before the Fourth of July and in the midst of planning for trek and nearly getting sued, I took the kids on a little camping trip.  Perfect timing, right? My friend Alison got the idea in her head that she wanted to take her kids camping even though her husband couldn't go.  And she also decided that my friend Heather and I should go with her with our children. So Alison drove up to Warm Lake the Sunday before the 4th with her family and they set up camp.  And then Heather and I loaded up our kids Monday morning and met her up there when her husband left. We crammed ourselves into her trailer....11 people!

I almost didn't go because I felt like I had too much going on.  But I had also been feeling guilty about how neglected my kids had been this summer with all that had been going on.  So I went.  And you know what?  I had an amazing time.
While I didn't take a single picture ( I don't even think I took my camera) I will say this...there was lots of swimming, tons of jumping off of the awesome rope swing (I even did it repeatedly!), lots of laughing, a lot of walking and biking, a bit of sleeping, and even more playing.  It was a great little getaway for my kids and I.  We had a blast.  And I actually took time to take a break from my stresses and enjoy my children!

And Warm Lake might be my new favorite. I'm definitely going back to go on that rope swing again!

Sleep Over

My youngest two have been found sleeping like this a lot lately.  I don't know what it is about sleeping on the floor but they love it.  Especially Emmie.  Even when no one wants to sleep on the floor with her she climbs out of bed after we leave her for the night and more often than not we find her asleep on the floor in her princess sleeping bag.


Noteworthy

Emmie has refused to put much effort to riding her bike or into putting her face in water.  And then one day that all changed.  Literally in the space of 24 hours.  One night she went out with John (again) to try to ride her bike.  Ains asked if she should get the camera and I told her not to bother.  But then to my surprise...Emmie was riding down the street!  All by herself!  She was a bike pro within a day or two.
And then the very next day Kortney persuaded her to put her face in the water. And to her surprise, when she did it she didn't die!  And then she realized that since she could put her head in the water she could jump off the side. And then all in an instant...my baby grew up.  And I wanted to cry a little bit.  But I was just too excited for her.

Fourth of July/Welch Family Weekend

Welch Family weekend had to be combined with the Fourth of July this year due to Cy's joining of the Coast Guard.  He left on the 14th of July (today) for basic training and we won't see him again until this fall at the earliest.  So we had to cram in all of our fun before he left.

And that we did...

We started Friday night with swimming, a pizza party, frappe, and an out door movie in Kort and Dan's backyard.  Mighty Ducks was just as amazing as I remember it!
We woke up on the Fourth for a big breakfast at my parents.  We spent the entire day eating and swimming and sleeping and barbecuing, and I even got my family to play a game!  It was really a great day.  The only downfall was that John was on call and had to go into work for a few hours.  But other than that it really was a perfect holiday!




We decided to stay at my parents house instead of driving down to a park for fireworks like we usually do.  We lit our fountains on a ladder for a more impressive show.  It was definitely impressive!  Especially with Syd's music playing in the back ground.  Nothing says American pride like Lee Greenwood singing along to fountains on a ladder.





Tween

I'm quickly learning that covering my oldest's body is becoming harder that it used to be.  This year swim suits have proven particularly tricky.  Take this suit for example....
After days of shopping we eventually decided to buy 2 of these suits.  A size 12 to give us more length on top and a size 10 for better bum coverage.  And then when the size 12 top still showed more tummy than Ainsley was comfortable with we added a ruffle to the bottom.
And not to brag or anything...but way to go me!!!  I also altered her another suit.  It was one that we had to buy in a size 14 to give her the body length she needed.  But it was baggy all the way around.  So I sewed up the sides with elastic thread.  My new favorite kind of thread.  Both of her suits now fit and don't look homemade!  Mission accomplished!

A Wee Bit of Stress

John and I still rent out our old home.  We've been doing that for over 2 years now.  And up until recently things have been great.  Over the last 6 months the condition of the home has declined....a lot.  The yard is almost completely dead, the inside is suddenly way too dirty, and rent was becoming consistently late.  It was frustrating.  But what was most frustrating is that our renter was annoyed with us.  I still can't figure out why.  But she was.

One day she sent an email letting us know that if we ever wanted to sell our house she would be interested in "breaking the lease amicably."  If I'm being honest when she sent that email I was happy.  She was giving us permission to break the lease!  I mentioned to my mom that our renter wasn't happy in the house anymore and we weren't too keen on her.  And that it might be time for us to do something with the house. We looked into selling but that still wasn't an option.

Then the crazy started happening.  The next night I got a text from my mom asking what the rent was on our house.  Apparently a good friend of her's son and his wife had been looking for a house.  I was a little hesitant about the situation but emailed our renter and let her know that someone might be interested in taking over her lease if she wanted out of it.  She said she was. Awesome!  Things were working out!

I did some snooping and looked at facebook pictures of our new potential tenants and soon realized that they would be a good fit for the home.  He works for Tru Green and agreed to help restore the lawn, and she has good taste and is a neat freak.  A win, win in my book.

But then somehow things got messy.  Our current renter started accusing us of kicking her out of the house etc. and before long there were threats of lawyers legal issues.  We were upset and confused. I honestly think she made a hasty decision saying she wanted to break the lease and then quickly regretted it.

John and I were losing sleep over the matter and I spent my days with my stomach in knots.  We were miserable.  When we reached our last straw I decided to spend the day fasting.  And by the end of the day I had decided what I was going to do.  I drove to Sonic and bought two shakes and showed up at her front door for a little chat.  John really didn't want me to go.  But that didn't stop me.

I honestly think if I hadn't had something in hand to give her she never would have been open to having a conversation.  We sat on her porch and I explained that John and I were confused and thought we had been helping her get out of a lease she no longer wanted to be tied to.  And she basically said she was stressed and had made a rash decision.  But the bottom line was....we were all moving forward and the fire had been put out.

We got the rent money that was owed to us and now we are to the point where we only have 2 days until our new renters will be moved in.  The whole situation has been so stressful!  I'm sickened when I see what has happened to our house in just over 2 years.  It looks like a sad and miserable house, not the happy home I remember.

My hope at this point is that our new tenants will love the house like we did.  I will be spending a day cleaning, getting carpets cleaned, and attempting to clean up the yard a bit.  All in hopes that the house will now be cared for.  And then if we're lucky....we can sell that darn house in the spring!

Spring Piano Recital

While these pictures are terrible...for posterity's sake I shall document the kids spring piano recital.  My mom also performed in it.  How many kids can say they were in a recital with their grandma?!  Pretty cook I think.  Plus there were dancers.  So there was something to distract our eyes when our ears got really bored....(you know what I mean :).



Monday, July 13, 2015

A quick trip to Salt Lake

The morning after school got out we loaded up the car and headed down to Salt Lake.  John and his Dad were presenting a paper at The Mormon History Association Meeting and so the kids and I decided to tag along.  We stopped at the canyon near Twin Falls for a little picnic and to stretch our legs.  It was such a nice little area.  I wouldn't mind going back and spending some more time there one day.
Of course I was horrible about taking pictures.  We got to do a fun run at Ashlyn's school and go swimming, and the kids loved playing with cousins.  I actually remembered to take pictures on the day that we drove down to Provo and visited the Bean Museum and the Art Museum!



After our museum visits Steph and Eric earned their sainthood and took my kids back to Salt Lake for me so that I could go with John's mom to watch John and Steve's presentation.  I've never been able to see John present before!  And I loved it!  Maybe one day I'll actually become a history nerd and start going to full conferences?  Just maybe.   But my favorite part was when I looked over at a cute little lady sitting next to Alene and realized that she was sketching each presenter!  I should have thought to ask to buy the sketch off of her after the presentation.  I think that may have been the only time that John has been sketched before!
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School's out for Summer!

When the final bell rang the party started. One of Ainsley's friends planned a pool party and a limo ride after school.  It was pretty cool.  Each girl chipped in $10 and they got to ride around in a limo for an hour.  I'm sure it's something she will never forget.

Afterwards the girls went back to a neighborhood pool for swimming, dinner, and games. And even the younger kids were tolerated for a bit.  But just a bit :)


And then...because our evening wasn't exciting enough. John's friend Josh called and wanted to help us take out our dead tree....right that moment.  And so that's what we did.  Because when someone offers to do something like that you do it whenever they want to.  And just to be clear, we still have a large hole in our flower bed waiting for a tree to be planted.  Maybe one day we will actually get a new one in the ground!